January 2nd, 2013 | 16 Comments »

 2013 digits

I’ve noticed blogs that say “Make resolutions!”  Then there are those that say, “Don’t make resolutions!”  Then “Let us walk right, talk right and spit right, and everything will be OK!”  Worst of all: “Ignore it all and stay the same way!!”  Hey!  There is always room for improvement.

So my thought is, “Christmas is coming.”  I know!  So profound.  I owe it all to Alpha Hubby.  Why?  Because he says it ALL. THE. TIME.

His meaning is this:  we make promises to ourselves to do better or make changes and then we break those promises to ourselves.  We decide to lose some weight.  We decide to exercise more.  We decide to eat healthy.  We decide to be nicer to people.  We decide to write that book (side note: which, last year, my friend Pamela Hutchins DID DO.  Not just one but she published six at once.  And I am chomping at the bit waiting for a sequel on one of them.  Go check them out here: http://pamelahutchins.com/publications/).

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Anyway, for the rest of us, Christmas is coming!  Maybe this year, we start out gung ho and do right… for about two weeks.  Then life gets in the way, interest wanes or we get tired of eating carrots and celery (smile).  The next thing we know, Christmas is here and we didn’t do any of the things we wanted to do.  The time got away from us.

The days will pass whether we do what we said we wanted to do… or not.  Christmas is coming no matter what we are doing.  Do we want it to get here and we’ve at least made an attempt at changes we desired?  Or do we want it to get here and feel a huge sense of disappointment in ourselves that we’ve let ANOTHER YEAR pass by without doing what we wanted?

robot success

What is the answer to stick-to-it-ness?  Heck if I know.  What?  You thought this was going to continue to be a deep, profound blog post?  I’m leaving the profoundness to Alpha Hubby.  Christmas is coming.  It will get here and we will have accomplished what we wanted… or NOT.  I guess it all depends on how badly we really want it.  If we really do, then we will find the way to do whatever it is.  We each must find out for ourselves.

As for me, I’m following the principles I learned studying people who’ve walked in their dreams:  write those long term goals down.  Figure out the steps to get there.  Break those steps down into manageable bites – short term goals.  Then, do something every single day toward that goal, no matter how simple or complex that something is. 

How do you eat an elephant?  It’s HUGE! 

One bite at a time.  Hee hee hee.

If you only view that elephant as one giant goal, you will become overwhelmed and Christmas will get here and you will still be staring at the elephant.  Begin with one bite at a time (I know, I know, it sounds gross but stick with me here).  Break your goal down into small bites and Christmas will get here and you will be closer to that goal or have completed it!

Scale Weights

Say you want to lose 50 pounds.  Don’t focus on 50 pounds.  Focus on what you can do today toward the goal of losing one pound.  Today, this meal, what can you eat right?  How many minutes can you walk today?  Bites.

Or that book you want to write?  Write down those chapter ideas.  Figure out a character.  Decide what your chapter titles will be.  Research what others have done.  Write your goal number of pages for today.  Bites.

Those bites – little accomplishments toward your ultimate goal – will help you stay on track and keep you from focusing on what hasn’t been done yet.  Instead you can focus on what you have done toward that goal

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And the ultimate goal for 2013 should be this – SAY IT WITH ME – “This year I will enjoy life more.  I will stress less or not at all.  I will jump in water puddles.  I will dance around the house.  I will sing at the top of my lungs.  I will surround myself with things I think are beautiful.  Every single day, I will do something nice just for me.  I will be more grateful and I will express that gratitude.  I will choose to be happy!”

So I will leave this semi-profound blog post with a poke and grin:  here is Alpha Hubby’s goal for the New Year.  I know, I know.  But we can’t ignore him.  He refuses to be ignored.

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September 18th, 2010 | 12 Comments »

Don’t mind me, I’m just practicing.  NO NO NO NO NO!

…lovely sourdough French bread. As toast with butter. As sandwich. Dunked in below mentioned coffee. Oh let me count the ways…

…bites of Ba*y Ru*h candy bars. Yeah, uhn huh and if you believe that ONE bite story…

…coffee with a dollop of heavy whipping cream and it’s not the coffee that’s the prob here.

…steak fries from the bistro down the road along with whatever they were served with ’cause it’s never good for me. Except going down. It’s the staying part – on my bod – that is not good.

…cream cheese on bagel or not on bagel. Perhaps diet crackers? Not if I eat the whole box. Since there aren’t that many in diet boxes anyway. Right? NO cream cheese. NO bagels. And for darn sure NO Thomas Sourdough English Muffins. NO NO NO.

…to the fact everything may tastes better sitting on a R*tz but whatever it AND the Ritz are not in my best interests. At all. Ever. R*tz are not my friend.

Miss Julia over at http://www.everydaymomideas.com sent me this comment on one of the posted questionaires I filled out that had pix – here is the trigger – and here is what she said (tongue in cheek, not snarky):

Did you ever stop to think that their are other struggling dieters out there, that just might not appreciate being exposed to delicious-mouth-watering photos of fries? I dont think so! You need to check yourself, girlfriend. ;)

Oh and p.s. there is NOTHING wrong with the meme thingie I am a part of, it’s ME. My digging around for delish pix and the like. I love the questionaire, I just have a “NO” issue I’m working on!

SHE’S RIGHT!  I used to fill out those questionaires and post mouthwatering pictures – then wonder later on why I craved some food – like fries – that I hadn’t even thought about.

I was putting it before my eyes – tempting myself.  Temptation comes in many forms. My problem is that I thought “just one bite won’t hurt” and while that one bite might not, it is a TRIGGER – the pirahana effect I told you about before. I become a remorseless eating machine. I won’t even realize I was beginning to go the wrong direction until my clothes get tight again. I didn’t even look back to see what triggered it (because I quit writing in my food journal days ago).

I have to tell myself to the food AND to the mouthwatering pictures (I mean, I just posted a delish manacotti picture and I want it but I’m telling myself) – a big fat

Otherwise I will continue taking 2 steps backwards instead of jogging forward.  I heard a woman on a television show the other day.  She’s lost 180 pounds in her 30′s.  She’d been overweight since she was 8 years old.  She said, “I will never put another Snick**s bar in my mouth again for as long as I live.  It was one of my worst offenders.”  ONE HUNDRED AND EIGHTY POUNDS.  She lost a whole person, simply thru diet and exercise.  I say simply – it isn’t – but rather than surgery. But what I caught was that she told herself ‘NO’ to get there.

Between that lady and Julia, I am learning.  The answer is

September 14th, 2010 | 5 Comments »

(This is part of an on-going series Momma’s Soapbox and I are doing on Keeping Our Inner Aloha/Peaceful Life. See here for the Aloha lowdown and here for the Peaceful Life reason!)

Alpha Hubby has this irritating sweet and helpful habit of saying, “Did you write it down?” when I say I forgot to do something. It’s like the saying, “If you have no goals, you’re not going anywhere.”  I have no idea who said that – it’s just one of those things I jotted down on a piece of paper because I wanted to remember it.  It’s similar to something Mary Kay Ash said.

I have been reading about Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics.  Her story is amazing – in a time when women were considered incapable of running an business empire, and after she had retired after 25 years in the work force - she proved all naysayers wrong. 

I have been studying about something she did every day:  she respected time.  Time is our life.  We exchange time for money (jobs), we exchange time for entertainment (reading, going to movies), we exchange time for relationships (spending time with loved ones).  Time is valuable.  Here is a quote from the book:

Every day before Ash went to work, she would make a list of the “Six Most Important Things” to do, and give herself deadlines to finish each. “Over the years, I’ve observed that nearly all high achievers know how to make good of those 1,440 minutes in each day,” said Ash.

Anything she did not finish on the assigned day, she would move to the top of her “Six” list the next morning.

So I am working to do just that – start every morning making a list of 6 things I want to accomplish that day.  I am learning how to assign a “deadline” to the task but it’s difficult because I am in the bad habit of becoming sidetracked.  I have to develop in this area.

Speaking of getting sidetracked, I remember learning a trick a long time ago about not leaving a room until you are finished in that room.  I know it was about housework but it really works in every area of life.  The article said to take large brown paper sacks and write on the outside the name of each room in your house.  Then, if your goal was to clean the living room and there were items in that living room that belonged in another room, DO NOT LEAVE THE LIVING ROOM.  Place the items in the sack with the right room marked on it.  In other words, if you have children’s toys that belong in their room, you put the toys in the sack marked “kids room” (whatever, you know what I mean).  Then deal with the items in the sack one sack at a time.

I still try to incorporate this into my house cleaning to this day but I use cheap plastic clothes baskets that I picked up at the Dollar Store.  Of course, sometimes there are white plastic laundry baskets sitting all around the house, mocking my goal setting goals but I keep plugging and keep trying and keep working on it!

Now I need to apply this goal setting list to my daily life.  If one of the items on my list to write a posting for the day, then I can’t get up and answer the phone to chat for an hour with a friend, send a personal email, or read a book.  Any one of those sidetracks will throw my goal setting list and deadlines off, and ruin the entire point of goal setting. Ask me how I know. I have to set those things aside and finish the posting.  I can call back, write later, and read when all items on the list are accomplished!

Today I started with four items.  My four goals are making Alpha Hubby’s bread (bread machine, actually), the dining room, kitchen, and my bath area.  Under each goal I wrote exactly what I want to accomplish.  The dining room alone may take longer than any of them so I had to put the kitchen first since that only involved getting the bread machine set up, the dishes and sweeping – easy stuff that needed to be done.  When I’m done in the kitchen, I will head to the dining room with the bathroom being last on the list (one most likely to be pushed to tomorrow’s list).  The dining room is more visible and has been cluttered with unpacked stuff longest.  I need to finish finding a place for everything and everything in its place.

If you know you will not finish an item in one day, just do what you can that day.  In my case, unpacking from the move is a one-shot deal.  Once it is finished, I will never have to deal with it again.  It is hard to define a deadline for unpacking so I have to figure out ways to break it down into discernable goals – things I can do that day that will move the unpacking forward.  Thus, I finish unpacking and putting away the boxes in the dining room.  That is a goal.  I do not bring more boxes in to be unpacked until these boxes are dealt with.

The kitchen, on the other hand, is a goal I know a good deadline for.  I know about how long it takes to do the dishes and load the dishwasher, sweep and mop the floor, wipe the counters, clean the stovetop.  I can set that goal deadline fairly accurately.

So the Peaceful Tip for today is to write down your daily goals.  Start every day knowing what you want to accomplish that day, listed in order of importance.  Do not go to the next item on the list until you are finished with the one you are on.  Do not stress and do set realistic deadlines.  If you need me, I’ll be in the dining room for as long as it takes to get it in order!  That pix above is deceptive – there is a temporary table set in front of the dining room table and the temp table is covered in unpacked items.  Help me, Rhonda!! My poor bathroom may be pushed out for… forever!

July 4th, 2010 | 3 Comments »

That’s what I used to have to do with my poor knees.  In my bio, I mentioned I’d been in a car wreck when I was 19 where one kneecap went through the radio knob and the other got racked up on the gear shift knob.  I wasn’t driving and I wasn’t wearing a seat belt.  I sure paid for that!

Anyway, needless to say, the more weight I gained the more trouble I had with my knees.  It was a small motivating factor in my desire to get this weight off and I must say, it has helped tremendously.  I was able to run all over town yesterday without collapsing in a blob of pain on the couch last night.  Imagine when I lose another 10 pounds – whoo hoo!!

Today is July 4th – INDEPENDENCE DAY.  It is freedom for me in more than one way – the freedom I am celebrating is freedom from a wrong relationship with food!  I am not afraid of food today.  It is not the boss of me and I will make great choices when we eat before the big fireworks celebration. 
Want magic elixir?  The best diet aid on earth?  Make sure you have plenty of this on ice:

I might even have a little bit of the stuff we make with this: 

…but don’t tell anyone! 

Just kidding.  Today it is all about moderation, being aware of everything I even think about putting into my mouth (and making sure I LOG IT IN MY FOOD JOURNAL), and drinking plenty of water.  I am going to enjoy the day without losing ground – but I am NOT GOING TO STRESS over all the food that is available today.  I will make great choices!  I will do whatever I can to lose one pound today – yes, even on holiday!

June 16th, 2010 | 7 Comments »

Oh I just love that title – I crack myself up sometimes – ho – more than I can chew… get it?  Journey back into LBD – chew – food?

Guess you had to be there.  It sure was funny to those of who were here.  All of us.  No, I’m not telling who.  Me, myself and I don’t want me to tell.

Yah, I’ve been alone too long today.  There is a point to this blog, tho.  I had a lot of people mention to me lately that they needed to lose some weight.  Practically everyone I know needs to lose some weight be it 5 pounds or 105 pounds.

I just figured out this week one of the reasons I blow it about 2 weeks into any program I start, restart, begin again, follow, etc.  I bite off more than I can chew.

Rather than take it one goal at a time – one item – one change – I decide to do it all right now.  If one thing works, then it stands to reason, adding another thing in will make it go faster!   Exercise, drink plenty of water, take the right supplements, eat right, weigh all foods, write everything down that goes into my mouth, get plenty of sleep, cut out chemicals and processed foods, etc., etc., etc.

Pretty much?  I set myself up to fail.  This is true of any goal we want to accomplish, but especially so for those of us who need to lose some weight.  Why?  Cause our bodies are just waiting for us to blow it so it can, first get us to eat that pan of brownies, then second, start the guilt talk.  You know, “Man, you blew it AGAIN!  What is the matter with you???  Can’t you just stick to the plan?  You never do it right.  What’s up with that, chubby??”

Yeah, negative self talk is the WORST thing we do to ourselves.

Today’s point is this:  Long term goals are great but you get that elephant eaten one bite at a time.  Whew – profound, huh?  It’s a mix of other peoples proverbs.  What does it mean?  how the heck should I know Oh, it means ONE STEP AT A TIME gets a big goal or project accomplished.   One change.  One something done until it becomes a habit.  One change you get down pat before you go on to the next change.

Instead of worrying about how much I have to get off long term, I need to break it down and take one week.  I say, “This week’s goal is ____. ”  Then I take it one day at a time to get to the end of the week.  What can I do today to ensure I make this week’s goal?  Sometimes you gotta break it down to hours such as, “What can I do RIGHT NOW to meet today’s goal?”  Even minutes.

You know what I mean – right before you stuff that bag of potato chips into your mouth, maybe you can stop and ask yourself, “Will this bag of potato chips help me reach today’s goal that will help me meet this week’s goal?  No?  Oh, well, maybe just for this moment, I’ll wait on the chips and save them for later.”  Don’t tell yourself “NO I CAN’T HAVE IT” ’cause then your body will go into, “What? I want it.  I want it now.  I want it I want it iwantitiwantit” and pretty soon you’ll be throwing yourself in the floor having a 2 year old type tantrum.  It’s ugly.

Just tell yourself, “I won’t eat this right now.  I’ll save it for later.”  Then, the super smart thing to do once you’re past the craving (and you can fool your body) is either hide the chips, get rid of the chips, or stomp the chips into inedible mush. 

No temptations mean no temptation.  Ooooh wasn’t that good?  I made that up all by myself.  Can you tell???  But you know what?  I did NOT eat that chocolate candy bar for one reason only.  It was not in the house.  Because it wasn’t in the house, there were no temptations to each a chocolate candy bar.  Trust me, your body knows when it is on the shelf no matter where you put it.

So take your long term elephantine goal and break it down into little sized bites.  Figure out how much weight you need to lose, then forget that number. Instead, figure out how much you are willing to work toward losing by the end of one week, the set that goal be it 1-2-3 or 5 pounds. Create short term goals that lead up to the long term one – but only focus on what you can do RIGHT NOW.  Then do it.

January 27th, 2010 | 5 Comments »

Love soft as an easy chair
Love fresh as the morning air
One love that is shared by two – (me, me, me – ME because if you think I’m sharing you are out of your mind, la la la la la)
I have found with you…*


chocolate and wine

Chocolate.  My former nemesis.  I used to crave chocolate all the time – almost couldn’t survive without it. 

I am proud to say, the love affair is OVER.  I have broken up with chocolate… for the time being.   Oh, I still crave, desire, hunger for, can’t live without it, am willing to kill for want it once in awhile.  So I have a small piece and then get over it.  Well, I have a small piece.  I don’t get over it.  I always want to kill for more but I no longer crave it.  AND I don’t keep it in the house anymore.  I don’t hide it on the shelves anymore.  I don’t stick some in the freezer anymore.  I don’t stick it in drawers, under cabinets – where ever I could stick it so that no one would know I had it I wouldn’t see it. 

I am trying to think of it this way:  chocolate mouse trap

But it doesn’t always work.  I’d probably catch a mouse trying to get to it before me and have to kill the mouse for it.  (Oh NO, not me. I wouldn’t do that. Nope, unh huh.)

OK.  So my point today is that, due to the constraints I’ve put on myself with this LBD Journey, Alpha Hubby can’t make me his usual fudge for Valentines Day.  I don’t need anymore flowers – got plenty for my birthday.  I need to think of something really GREAT for him to get me.  Oh, well, no.  If he does that, then I have to reciprocate by cooking a romantic dinner (ooh, and gain weight, too).  Hmmm – I think I’ll stick with a nice healthy…



Stick to your goals, ladies!  You’ll be glad you did.  Remember that old saying?  A moment on the lips a lifetime on the hips.  Yeah, I hated it, too. 

*Evergreen (Love Theme from A Star Is Born)” is the well known theme song from the 1976 film A Star Is Born.  It was composed and performed by Barbra Streisand with lyrics by Paul Williams  (with additional lyrics by LBDDiaries)

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January 6th, 2010 | 4 Comments »

I didn’t realize how long it had been since I posted! Selling mom’s house (yay) took up some time but now I’m left to deal with all the stuff we had to rush out of the storage shed and put in my sunroom! And semi-unpacking without unpacking my kitchen supplies has been fun. We know we’re going to move; we just don’t know when!

So cooking Christmas dinner was quite the challenge.  I heard a lot of things like, “Where is the whisk?” or “Crud, do you know where the vanilla is?” Alpha Hubby and I put on an amazing dinner but it sure took some doing!

So here I am, six days into the New Year. I didn’t make resolutions because when you resolve to do something, you can fail. Resolve means to “make up your mind, decide, determine.” I’ve made up my mind a million times to get back into my Little Black Dresses. I’ve also wandered away from that decision and wandered back a million times!

I never quit but I haven’t been as focused as I should have been. I am healthier than I was 6 months ago but I haven’t lost any more weight (and yes, nosy, I KNOW why).

So right after Christmas dinner, I got rid of everything that had snuck into the house that I didn’t want to be tempted by. NO, I do NOT know HOW it got into the house!! Really! Anyway, if Alpha Son didn’t take it home, I threw it away. Who knew a jar of Welch’s grape jelly could lead to sin?

I also began DOING the things I knew to do – got back to taking my krill oil and organic Bragg’s apple cider vinegar faithfully. along with drinking more water. Water wise, I didn’t jump into it, I just added a little more every day. My body is so happy. My skin had gotten unbelievably DRY to the point it hurt. While we have been running the heater more since the weather has gone north (gone north, get it? not hotter but colder? guess you had to be there).

Okay where was I? Oh yeah, dry skin – you know it is dry from the inside out when you put body lotion on, it soaks in and you still feel dry. So I knew I wasn’t drinking enough water.

This year I am going to DO. I will do what I know to do to continue getting healthier and in the best shape of my life. I have enough programs, plans, exercise equipment, and support to be successful in my DOING. I have gotten rid of all excuses. I have figured out my triggers and gotten rid of them. I have seen what comes along and takes me out like a wrestler pinning his opponent to the mat – and I know how to deal with that enemy now. I KNOW WHAT TO DO.

So all that is left is the doing of it.  I will have a great year – the BEST ever – accomplishing everything I set my hand to do!

tango-kitchen   I will do what is necessary to recreate this picture only using Alpha Hubby and myself.

December 8th, 2009 | 5 Comments »


I have been contemplating belly buttons.  No, not really.   Oh, okay, maybe a little.  Maybe the bellies that go with the buttons.

I’ve noticed lately that a lot of bloggers have been talking about how they fell off the weight loss wagon and they are very unhappy with themselves. Or they feel like total failures for not having reached an end-of the year goal.

I got to thinking about my own set-backs recently and getting off-track.  Then I had the amazing revelation.  That I was even paying attention and stopping the downward spiral was far more important than the fact I slipped a little.  Before, I would “blow it” and give up.  It might be six months or more before I got unhappy enough to start all over.

This time, since May, I’ve never one time stopped thinking about my goals and this time, I actually REFUSED TO QUIT.

So maybe my goal is to be closer to the below picture but here is a little secret I’ve learned:


AS LONG AS I DON’T QUIT, I WILL GET THERE.  How long it takes me to get there is in my power and NO one elses.  I make choices every day – every hour – that support that goal or undermine that goal.  But if I will keep going forward, even if I do slip backward once in awhile, I WILL GET THERE.

We spend too much time focusing on what we are doing wrong. I say it is past time that we focus on and look for what we are doing right.