BE SURE AND PAUSE THE MUSIC PLAYER ON THE RIGHT SIDE!
Song for this Post: Always by Irvin Berlin, sung by Kenny Rogers
“They” say that you shouldn’t look to fit into a relationship until you are whole and 100 percent together.
“They” say you shouldn’t expect to be one with another person until you are one with yourself.
“They” say you need to be a princess before you expect to meet a prince.
“They” say you need to be completely healed from bad relationships before you can expect to be able to function in a new one.
“They” say you should be over the past before you can operate in the present.
“They” – whoever they are – never met the strength of Alpha Hubby (and if he takes me out after seeing this picture [and I don’t mean to dinner], then it was nice knowing you).
If it were not for him, I would not be who I am today.
If it were not for him, I would not be whole.
If it were not for him, I would never have been one with myself because I didn’t even know what that meant.
If it were not for him, I wouldn’t even believe I deserved a prince.
If it were not for him, I would still be battling scars from past relationships.
If it were not for him, the past would always control not only my present, but also my future.
If it were not for him, I would always be missing the greatest thing in my life – unconditional love.
Unconditional love –is loving without expecting anything in return
Unconditional love – is doing for someone else without expecting them to reciprocate in any way
Unconditional love – separates the individual from the behavior
Unconditional love – is love that does not have to be earned
Unconditional love – is given freely no matter what.
Unconditional love – loves first when there is a stalemate and someone has to make a move
Unconditional love is measureless and this is what Alpha Hubby taught me.
Sure, we aren’t perfect in the sense that we never exchange conversations decibels louder than normal – *ahem* – and it is usually my voice but who’s counting? We are still two individuals living in the same house expressing our individual likes and desires.
In learning to operate as one, sometimes, in some ways, some parts of the separate two have to be killed off in order to function as one. This does not mean we lose our individual personality – our “you-neek-ness” – but it does mean learning to compromise, sacrifice, and work together instead of apart.
I am not the me I was when we met – of course one pix is many, many,MANY moons ago. Let’s see, at least 25 years difference… or less… or more. I ain’t talking, I’m hiding. I am a far better version no matter what.
Alpha Hubby brings out the best in me. He taught me to respect myself and strive for my dreams. He encourages me to believe in myself in areas I never dreamed I would or could. Truly, he believes in me more than I do myself. I will sing a love song to him and even after 20+ years of marriage, I still choke up because the feelings for him overwhelm me.
We have learned to function together in ways that best bring peace to us both. We know peace is the most important ingredient in our relationship. We seek and strive for it in every area and every way.
I don’t have to think of myself first. In meeting his needs, mine are met. He taught me that through unconditional love, no one loses out. I can trust him and I’ve learned to think of him first (as he does me). In that way, we both receive exactly what we need to operate in joy and live in love. I never lose out – ever.
It is kind of funny since back in the day, women’s lib screamed “think of yourself first because no one else will!” Not true. Unconditional love thinks of the other one first. And if you have ever had it aimed at you, whooo baby! All I can say is to never, ever, ever settle for less than unconditional love in your life.
Alpha Hubby is not everything I dreamed of in a true love mate.
How could he be? I didn’t even know this type love existed…
Before him.