Whatever Lola Wants…

January 27th, 2015

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There is a song from the Fifties, “Whatever Lola Wants, Lola Gets”.   Well, I guess I should change it to say “Whatever Nan Wants, Nan Gets.”

This wasn’t always true.  As a matter of fact, I can say with a
straight face that I never got anything (of importance) that I
wanted (or needed) until Alpha Hubby.  He broke the curse.

I used to live a lot like that old Linda Ronstadt song, “When Will I Be Loved”:  I’ve been “cheated, been mistreated, been put down, been pushed round, and when I met a new man that I wanted for mine, he always broke my heart in two, it happened every time, been made blue, and been lied to… WHEN will I be loved?“.

On top of that, I’ve lived in fear, been involved with Mr. Evil and his twin brother Dr. Psycho, been part of drama that made soap operas look tame, been afraid for my life, threatened with death, had to get over some pretty nasty stuff, and made a decision I was NEVER going to fall in love or get married again. Never, ever. E-v-a-h!

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For a long time I was single, alone and at peace.  My home was exactly the same way when I got home at night as it was when I left that morning – completely and totally peaceful.  No one bellowing. No sarcasm. No one criticizing.  Just lovely, lovely peace.

But I also never knew what true and unconditional love was.  I’d never had IT.  I never had faithfulness, that breath-taking knowing that he was never going to cheat. I never knew what it was like to be at total ease with someone, without pretending.  I never laughed without worrying about how I sounded or looked.  I never had freedom from makeup and dressing “just right”, never had passion that was real, or been given everything I wanted.

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Then came him.

Then Lola got everything she wanted.  Literally, physically, passionately, spiritually, and emotionally.  I not only met a guy who was willing to hold out until after we were married, respecting what I wanted, he also understood it to the point he took the decision as his own, too.  Thank goodness we only had 7 weeks before we got married.  Phew.  ‘Nuff said on that.

I discovered I was married to a man who would, with every breath in his body, try to give me anything and everything my heart desires.  He still does.  I have to be very careful what I desire.  Some women would take advantage of a man with such a big heart like that.  Then again, he knows what I desire most isn’t physical STUFF.  I just want his heart.

Honor

He can cook, cleans, builds, works, puts me first and himself last, creates anything I need to make my life easier, and he would die for me.  And yes, he would kill for me if it required that to protect me.  He is an old fashioned man, opening doors, walking on the curb side, and always in protection mode.

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He is a throwback to another era where knights in shining armor took the lady’s favor before they went into battle.  He would slay dragons for me (and has).  He is stubborn, domineering, dominating, passionate about what he believes in, and absolutely 100 percent hates to be questioned when he knows he is right, even if it is just for information and not to say a “you are wrong.”

Living with him is sometimes not easy – I am also stubborn, domineering, dominating, passionate about what I believe in, and absolutely 100 percent want to be acknowledged when I am right about something he thinks I know nothing about.

But because of his huge heart, we are able to have much more peace in our home than battles.  Even the first “adjustment” year of giving together.  Hey, that’s a great typo – giving together.  I meant living together but what we did was give to one another!

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Because of him, I am living this song in the many important areas – security, love, passion, understanding, a listening ear, compassion, and total, 100 percent unconditional love.

Whatever Lola wants, Lola gets – and baby, what she wants is YOU.

The lyrics say it all:

Whatever Lola wants, Lola gets
And little man, little Lola wants you.
Make up your mind to have
No regrets
Recline yourself
Resign yourself, you’re through

I always get what I aim for
And your heart and soul
Is what I came for

Whatever Lola wants, Lola gets
Take off your coat
Don’t you know you can’t win
You’re no exception to the rule
I’m irresistible, you fool… give in
Give in, you’ll never win

Whatever Lola Wants (Lola Gets) Sarah Vaughn

Wonderful Wisdom from Winnie the Pooh

January 19th, 2015

As usual, if the music is distracting, go to side bar near bottom and pause!

Today is just a light and fluffy post.

winnie piglet met you

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Somewhere in my past I fell in love with Winnie the Pooh.  I don’t know why because I wasn’t young.  You have to admit that sometimes he has a lot of wisdom in his fuzzy little brain.

Take the quote up there.  That is how I felt when I met Alpha Hubby. And we really have been on an adventure together for over 20 years.  We do know how to have fun together!

And for sure I feel about him this way:

winnie the pooh stay in your heart

Because when he said, “I love you” the first time, I knew a good thing when I heard it.  I wasn’t stoopid. I moved right into his heart.  He’s stuck with me now!

And I do know this is so true of my Alpha Hubby. There are days that seem to be more true than others!

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And Alpha Hubby is the kind to make sure I always feel like myself, and would bring me tea and honey until I am back to me!

Winnie the Pooh Wisdom

And there have been days when I just… need to take his hand:

winnie sure of you piglet

On another side, the thing I learned is that Winnie the Pooh TOTALLY understands me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been cleaning and said, “OH! THAT’S where it is.  I forgot I had this!!:

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And organization?

Winnie the pooh wisdom

And then for my Alpha Hubby (I had to throw this in because every single time he walks in the door at noon he asks, “Where’s my lunch?”  It’s a take on the father in the movie Pleasantville who walked in the house when all the lights were out and no one was home and asked, “Where’s my dinner?”):

Winnie the pooh wisdom

Yes there is great wisdom in Winnie the Pooh.  He even takes on overeating:

Winnie the pooh wisdom

And, of course, exercise:

Winnie the pooh wisdom

Business wisdom:

Winnie the pooh wisdom

and also

Winnie the pooh wisdom

But the most important quote by Winnie the Pooh is the one that Alpha Hubby and I took as our own

Winnie the pooh wisdom

So I’ll leave you with this last bit of wisdom just for you – something I want YOU to know:

Winnie the pooh wisdom

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A.A. Milne – creator of Winnie the Pooh

My Birthday Present

January 13th, 2015

As usual, if the music bugs, go to right bar and pause it!

2015 Sign

2015 Already?

I’m telling you, I have NO idea what happened to last year.  Wonderful things happened but the year zip-p-p-p-ped by!  So, I plan to have an even better this year starting with…

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I will Party On, in Private Only!

Whoo hooo!  My birthday is this week.  No, I am not telling you how many ’cause that’s just non-ya biz. I’m being mellow about it.  That seems to happen when those numbers change so – not drastically.  No, POWERFULLY.  I embrace the power!

Alpha Son/wife are taking me to a Japanese restaurant; Alpha Hubby? I’ll show you at the end of this post. Needless to say, he gets lots and lots of brownie points.  He was even smart enough to say, “It is who you are.  It suits you.”  Yeah, baby!!

I have been doing a lot of belly-button contemplating since the beginning of the year.  There are many changes going into effect and many things I am changing. I’ll chat about that later on.

Blog-wise, I am planning to mostly stick to writing about the true-love affair Alpha Hubby and I are wrapped up in.  I find it helps me keep focused on protecting what we have.  We are heading into our 21st year of marriage in March.  Wow.

We are working harder than ever to keep it fresh, hot, to keep ourselves connected, and not ever become roommates – or worse, ships passing in the night.  Although I am not sure how he could pass me going anywhere since we are joined at the hips (hoho). He’d have to drag me along with him.  Oh, wait! He’s already doing that!!

Show you care

Always show you care

My friend Kim had a neat blog post about marriage this past week.  Go check out her funny post entitled, Saint Elmo’s Fire, Wild, & Marriage.  I love her point, how passionate we are about doing everything for the other person when we are just married then 25 years later, being a bit more lax.  There is no fear when you love one another and, as she says, “…you’ll always be going home together.”  Drop over, leave a love comment!

OK, I’m not going to waste any more time.  I’m going to show you what Alpha Hubby got me for my birthday.  And no, I didn’t know I was getting it.  It was a surprise. These pictures are from the day he bought it, so he and Jerry the salesman (white haired dude) are checking it out.

As my son would say, “Don’t be jelly.”  Heh heh.

Ta da!!

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Pretty!

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Loverly

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Side

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Happy Birthday 2 ME.

You actually have to be very careful because you’ll be doing 120 before you realize it!  It’s been too cold to take the top off (altho that didn’t bother the Alphas).  The trunk is small but the bag boy managed to get all my groceries in it (yay).  I am just too cool for school!  My former car is 14 years old so you can imagine how nice it is to have amenities (like 6-CD player and Bluetooth!).

Happy Birthday to me!

True Love Ways

December 29th, 2014

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Now that the holiday season is over it’s time to get back to the real world.  I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas but it sure is time to get back to healthy eating, relaxing, but nope, not gonna take down the Christmas tree!  Not until my birthday has passed.

So… I’ve receive questions about my relationship with Alpha Hubby.  And yes, it is true that sometimes I have to pinch myself to realize that after 20 years, 9 months months and 25 days, our relationship is even better than in the beginning.

It is more honest, spicier, richer, deeper, better, blah blah, on and on ad nauseam.  So today I am going to share a little bit of True Love Ways – what we’ve done (and do) that keeps our relationship cool enough to make people gag.  I know you want to know. Heh heh.

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Cars 2006

Sometimes Alpha Hubby and I have really deep conversations.  Then again, we have some pretty stupid ones, too.  I mean, really.  We quote so many Pixar animated movies to each other that you’d think we live in one.  “Whatta ya gonna do? He’s my best friend.”  I enjoy him and he makes me laugh.

True Love quotes funny lines from movies and works to make silly, warm, funny memories and catch-phrases that only have meaning to the two of you.  Secrets between only you two!  And yes, we even have secret hand signals.  Some of them are for when we are in public and want to express our desire for one another.

Sometimes we unwittingly allow other things to steal our time away from one another.

True Love realizes that when you have a loved one’s time, it is a gift. It is to be treasured, valued.  You quickly get things back on track.  It makes your relationship richer when you value one another.

Enjoying each other's company

Enjoying each other’s company

Sometimes we face that relationships are a battlefield. We also know it is not supposed to be the two of you against one another.

True Love realizes that you must battle outside forces to keep the two of you faced outwardly, together. Against all obstacles – work, in-laws, friends, children, troubles.  If this slips, True Love is quick to forgive and forget and move on.  It really is you and them against the world.

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Focus!

Sometimes it is important that all the focus be on the other person for a time.  Sometimes you have to set yourself on a back burner for the other person’s needs to be met.

True Love isn’t “me, me, me” and “me first.”

Sometimes one of us makes a mistake and has to say, “I’m sorry.” (It’s usually me.)

True Love accepts an apology with grace.  True Love never keeps score and never says, “Well, you should be sorry.”  And True Love says:  “I’m sorry” (period, no reasons or excuses).  Or “I’m sorry I hurt you” not “I’m sorry your feelings were hurt.” Huge difference there.

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Kiss

Sometimes it may seem as if one person is constantly repeating themselves while the other person doesn’t ever quite seem to get it.  Yes Babe, you know what I mean.  I love that you put the dishes up – incredible – but that putting up is often very… creative.

True Love never gives up and does keep trying to get a point across.  (Baby, do you know where the colander is?  I love that you put dishes away but I need to know where. )  Smile.

hear no evil

hear see speak no evil

Sometimes there may be times when one mate may seem “less than perfect” or “less than the dream guy/gal you married” or might even screw up somehow and show he/she is a human being.  That’s when you hear, see and speak no evil.

True Love always, always expects and looks for the best in the other.  True Love cuts some slack.  True Love ignores anything it needs to and never points out a fault.

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gossiping

True Love NEVER talks to their girlfriends (or dude buds) about their loved one.  Never, never, ever.  Get me? NEVER. You have no idea how much damage you do when you go outside your marriage like that.  It is a betrayal.

For sure, True Love is patient and knows one must face that they themselves are -*sigh*- not perfect either.  Do not focus on perceived bad points!  Truly hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil.

Sometimes we have to face that we may hurt one another.  There may be tears (me) or growling (him).

True Love forces oneself to realize that the other never meant to hurt, nor is it on purpose.  True Love faces that one might be having a snit fit ’cause one got ones feelings hurt and needs get over it.  One is not telling who this one is.

 happy couple

Dance a lot! Laugh even more!

Dance in unusual places! Yes, even parking lots. Hear your fave song over the speaker in the grocery store? Slow dance in the aisle.  It just doesn’t matter because it is fun… unless it is the 15th and the entire world is in the store shopping.  Then people might fuss instead of smile at you.

Sometimes you just can’t have a serious conversation.  Sometimes you have to roll on the floor laughing (but maybe not in the grocery store)… at the same old jokes, punch lines and movie lines as if they were fresh and new.

True Love dances and laughs together.  Deep, amazing belly laughs.  The kind that make you cry because your stomach hurts and you squawk, “Stop! Stop! Stop! My jaw aches and my stomach hurts!”  Take time to enjoy life – really enjoy it – together.

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Seduction

Sometimes we get a bit busy and miss some… umm, shall we say, personal time?

True Love makes sure the most important focus in your life is your mate.  Above all others.  True Love quickly gets back on track and makes sure that the personal time meter is running into overtime.  No, zip, nada, nyet, zilch, NO excuses.  Seduce one another often.

Probably, with the exception of this last point coming up, our personal burn-up-the-sheets and boil-the-water-in-the-swimming-pool time is our most important detail in keeping our marriage growing better and better.  Never, ever losing the intimacy.

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Important

Last and most importantly in and to our relationship is that we never forget that above all and always, God is #1 in our relationship with one another.  There are three in the marriage and that is truly what makes it what it is.

True Love knows where True Love comes from.

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True Love Ways, Buddy Holly